I think this should be handled by the club in an off season banquet or something. My kid wins and my kid loses and guess what the losses make him work harder to get the wins. It sucks to lose but that is life. I think to be a wrestler good or bad they have a certain mindset and usually a parent of one of these kids do to. You don't give up because it wasn't easy and if the parent lets the kid give up it's on the parent. Not the coaches, the association, etc. I think your heart is in the right place because it really is heart breaking to personally know a child that has given everything and still come up short. I've been that mom but it's up to the team, coaches and FAMILY to encourage the child and let them know that when you lose you keep going!